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2025 Stroll Award Winner
Voted the Best Counseling Practice in Park Ridge, IL
When people hear “couples counseling,” a lot of assumptions pop up. The idea of sitting in a room with your partner and a therapist might sound intimidating, unnecessary, or like a last resort. But in reality, couples counseling can be a healthy, proactive tool for building stronger relationships — not just fixing broken ones.
Let’s clear up some of the most common myths.
This is probably the biggest misconception. People often think you only go to counseling when you're one step away from breaking up or divorcing.
Reality: Many couples go to therapy to prevent problems, not just fix them. Counseling can help with communication, navigating life transitions (like having a baby or moving), or simply understanding each other better. You don’t have to be in crisis to benefit.
Some people worry that the counselor will “team up” with one partner or blame one person for the problems.
Reality: A good couples therapist remains neutral. Their role is to help both partners feel heard, identify patterns, and improve understanding — not assign blame. The focus is on the relationship dynamic, not who’s “right” or “wrong.”
While emotions definitely come up, couples counseling isn’t just sitting around dissecting every feeling or going in circles about arguments.
Reality: Most couples therapy is structured, goal-oriented, and practical. You'll learn tools for communication, conflict resolution, setting boundaries, and reconnecting. It's about action just as much as insight.
This one is especially damaging. People often see therapy as the “last chance” and assume that going means your relationship has already failed.
Reality: Seeking help shows commitment, not failure. In fact, couples who go to counseling early tend to have better outcomes. It’s a sign that both partners are willing to work on the relationship — which is a strength, not a weakness.
It’s easy to think that the therapist is there to magically solve all your problems.
Reality: The therapist is a guide, not a fixer. They’ll help you see things more clearly, learn new tools, and create a safe space for honest conversations. But real change comes from both partners putting in the effort — both in and outside of sessions.
Couples counseling isn’t about airing dirty laundry or proving who's at fault. It's about understanding, growth, and connection. Whether you're struggling with big issues or just feeling a little disconnected, therapy can be a valuable way to strengthen your bond.
The mental health professionals at Athans and Associates are trained to understand and treat couples looking to resolve conflicts and deepen their relationship. Reach out today if you’re interested in scheduling a session with your partner.
About the Author
Courtney Griffin is a Professional Counselor at Athans & Associates. She works with children and adults, and has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from DePaul University.
Contact Athans and Associates today at (847) 823-4444 for more information about any of our counseling services.