Does Your Child Dread Back-to-School Time? 6 Tips to Help Your Child This Year

If your child is going into 3rd, 4th, or 5th grade and is experiencing anxiety for the school year ahead, enroll in our Back to School Bootcamp!
What Is Back-to-School Anxiety?
Back-to-school anxiety is the worry kids feel leading up to or during the early days of returning to school. It can show up in different ways depending on the child, including:
- Crying or irritability on school nights or in the morning before school
- Refusing to go to school or trying to get out of school (pretending to be sick, etc.)
- Trouble sleeping or changes in appetite
- Complaints of stomach aches or headaches
- Clinginess or refusing to leave the house
- Worrying out loud (“What if no one likes me?” or “What if I get lost?”)
These feelings are most common during transitions—like starting a new grade, changing schools, or returning after summer or winter break—but they can happen to any child, even those who usually enjoy school.
Why Does Anxiety Happen When Kids Go Back to School?
A new school year brings change, and change can be scary—even when it’s exciting. Some common triggers for back-to-school anxiety include:
- Fear of the unknown: New classrooms, teachers, and expectations.
- Academic pressure: Worry about grades, homework, or keeping up with classmates.
- Social worries: Making friends or dealing with past social struggles.
- Separation anxiety: Especially for younger kids or those starting school for the first time.
- Previous challenges: A rough experience last year can carry over into new anxiety.
How to Help Your Child Manage Back-to-School Anxiety
The good news? Most kids settle in within the first few weeks of school. But there’s plenty you can do to ease the transition:
1. Talk about it early
Give your child time to express their worries. Ask open-ended questions like, “What are you thinking about when school comes up?” Listen without jumping in to fix everything right away.
2. Practice routines
Start the school bedtime and morning routine about a week before school starts. It helps reset their internal clock and removes some stress from the first day.
3. Visit the school (if possible)
Walk around, find the classroom, meet the teacher—anything that makes the place feel more familiar and less intimidating.
4. Focus on the positives
Talk about the fun parts of school: seeing friends, art class, recess, or even a cool lunchbox.
5. Teach coping skills to help them self-regulate
Practice deep breathing, stretching, or short mindfulness exercises they can use when feeling anxious.
6. Be calm and confident
Kids pick up on your mood. Parents can be powerful models. A reassuring tone from you helps them believe everything will be okay.

When to Seek Extra Help
If the anxiety doesn’t fade after a few weeks or seems to be getting worse, it might be time to check in with a school counselor, pediatrician, or therapist. Ongoing anxiety could be a sign of a deeper issue, like an anxiety disorder.
If your child is struggling with the onset of the school year, contact Athans & Associates. Our clinicians are trained to work with school age children.
About the Author
Courtney Griffin is a Professional Counselor at Athans & Associates. She works with children and adults, and has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from DePaul University.




